Just Because It Felt Normal… Doesn’t Mean It Was Healthy By Bianca Vanitzan | Founder, Kiss Ur Brain LLC Published: July 28, 2025

Have you ever paused and asked yourself, “Why does this feel normal?”—even when it clearly isn’t good for you?

That question hit me hard recently. I was reflecting on some of my past habits, thought patterns, and emotional reactions—things I once called normal. But the truth is, they weren’t normal at all. They were familiar. They were survival responses. They were the result of adapting to dysfunction.

🧠 Familiar Doesn’t Always Mean Safe

When we grow up around emotional chaos, inconsistency, or even silence, our brain adapts to those patterns. It wires us to expect them. So later in life, when things feel calm, respectful, or balanced—it can feel off. We might even sabotage that peace because it’s unfamiliar.

We mistake dysfunction for normalcy.

We adapt to pain and call it strength.

We hold on to unhealthy cycles because letting go feels risky.

But just because something feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s right.

✨ The Wake-Up Moment

For me, the lightbulb moment came when I realized I was uncomfortable with peace. I had grown so used to old habits—mentally, emotionally, and relationally—that healthy started to feel foreign. I was settling for less because I thought discomfort was part of the deal.

But growth doesn’t live in comfort. It lives in awareness.

And awareness is where healing begins.

💚 What We Do at Kiss Ur Brain

At Kiss Ur Brain, we talk openly about things like this—how our brains adapt to what they’re exposed to, and how unlearning is just as powerful as learning. We support people who are rewriting the scripts in their minds and breaking cycles that never served them.

Whether it’s in a support group, a wellness event, or just a quiet moment on the site—this space is for people who are ready to choose peace, even when it feels unfamiliar.

🛑 Ask Yourself:

• What habits or behaviors have I accepted as “normal” that are actually unhealthy?

• Am I avoiding peace because I don’t recognize it?

• What would it look like to rewrite that narrative?

💭 Final Thought:

You are not “too damaged.” You’re just learning what real love, peace, and wellness feel like—for maybe the first time.

And that, my friend, is the real work.

That’s kissing your brain.